Are you really too busy or is it just not important enough to you to make time for it?
A friend recently shared an article arguing that being busy is just an excuse and if you say you are, it’s an indication that you can’t prioritize your life. I think this resonates with a lot of us and I am so very guilty of it. Highly recommend reading that article before delving into mine.
It’s easier to say “I’m busy” than “you aren’t worth my time right now because of all the things I have to do.” But what are these things? Can you list them, ordered by priority, before you make up an excuse?
I can’t most of the time.
Honestly, this article was a slap in the face and a realization. I am not too busy. I need to sort my priorities out because I do have time for others. I just don’t know when.
The thing that takes up most of my time is school and work. The most difficult thing I find when I prioritize tasks is that even though I can schedule that next Wednesday at 4pm I’m going to write my assignment for an hour, it might not happen. When 4pm comes along, my mind is probably not going to focus and for whatever reason, I find myself procrastinating because I don’t want to work on it at that time. I’ll end up doing it 3 hours later, off my schedule.
Take yesterday, for an example. I needed to finish an essay but for about 4 hours, my mind wasn’t in it. It wasn’t until I forced myself to go outside for a walk that I was able to clear my mind and focus on the assignment. Sometimes plans just don’t go accordingly.
So what can I do better now that I know I’m not busy? Here are a few questions I’m going to ask myself:
WHEN DO I HAVE TIME?
My automatic answer would be “never, I’m too busy.”
Nope, not this time. I have time. I could not sleep in as much on weekends (even though I am sleep deprived most of the time), get up early to do some work, giving myself more free time in the afternoon or evening to do things – to be social.
On weekdays I can free up my evenings after work (I just don’t like going out past 5pm…) instead of saying I’m busy when we all know I will take a nap…
HOW IMPORTANT IS THIS?
Put it this way. If it’s something you’d be willing to do if you didn’t have school or only worked one day a week, it is probably somewhat important to you.
The hardest thing for me is finding time to hang out with friends. I’m really bad at that. My friends and I always use the excuse that we’re “too busy.” Granted we are, but I think the real reason why we feel we are busy is because we are lost when it comes to organizing and prioritizing school work. It’s all a big mess that we will sort through the night before it’s due, but we allow ourselves a whole week to complete homework or study just in case we are feeling productive… have to stop doing that!
WHAT IS TRULY BEING BUSY?
I still believe being busy is a real thing. I just think it’s too often used as an excuse and is not usually the truth.
I think being truly busy is when you’ve scheduled reasonable time for everything you need to do, and you literally have no time or you are a) not going to get the rest you need and b) going to have no “me-time” at all. I stress how important me time is in my post about balancing work and school.
I hope that figuring my stuff out will help me stop being a terrible person and stop using the “I’m too busy” excuse for everything.
How do you feel about being busy? Is it legit or is it an excuse for you?